Counsellor, Consultant, PsychotherapistPhone:(+44) 7507562864
Anywhere via Zoom, Skype, telephone, FaceTime, or other electronic means
To give you the best possible experience and outcome with therapy, I employ a variety of methods. The overall framework for therapy is what I call Attachment Centred Therapy
. This means we look at how you learned to process information, both cognitive and affective, or facts and feelings, in order to navigate your way through life. Click on the link to find out more about Attachment Centred Therapy
Attachment Centred Therapy incorporates a wide variety of therapeutic disciplines: Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy, NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming), Ericksonian Hypnotherapy, Time Line Therapy, Dream Work, Breath Work, Meditation, Maslow's Modified Hierarchy of Needs, Vedantic Philosophy, Relationship Actualization, Relationship Bank Account via 'We Can Work it Out' by Clifford Notarius and Howard Markman, Sound Marital House via 'The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work' by John Gottman and Nan Silver, and the 'I feel ... when ... because ...' model for relationship communication. That's a baker's dozen of therapeutic modalities covering the major realms of psychotherapy. When you work with me, you will have all of these therapies available to you. I have worked with all of them for many years and combine them in the therapeutic modality of Attachment Centred Therapy.
I providing counselling
, and psychotherapy
services for addictions, co-dependency, relationships, family of origin, issues of trauma, abuse or neglect, developmental and personality problems, lifestyle development, personal growth and development and other life issues.Skype, phone or email
Meeting in person is a thing of the past. Many of my clients I have only met with online. Others transitioned with me from meeting in person to meeting online. All who have transitioned are doing equally as well as they were meeting in person. Other clients, even before Covid 19 and lockdown, preferred to meet online because of the convenience. Meeting online also makes it easier for me to negotiate on my fee for those who can't afford full fee, and of course, it is much more convenient.
Please feel free to contact me if you would like more information or to arrange an appointment.
I am a member of the UKCP (UK Council for Psychotherapy)
and certified by them as an Integrative Psychotherapist
through the Metanoia Institute
. Please see the qualifications page for a full listing of training, qualifications, and experience.
Electronic means for therapy, or E-therapy, is actually quite a nice way to do it. I have been doing E-therapy on way or another for almost 3 decades. It has many advantages. Please see the section below for a discussion of the many advantages of E-therapy.
Areas of SpecializationAddictions
Marriage and Family Counselling
Attachment Centered Therapy
Trauma, Abuse and Neglect
ADVANTAGES OF E-THERAPY
The first advantage of E-therapy is that you can do it from anywhere, and I have done E-therapy with clients from many parts of the world. That means you can find the right therapist for you and it doesn’t matter where you are located. It also means that, when you travel, for business, pleasure, or move for a new job, or for whatever reason, E-therapy can continue uninterruptedly.
The second advantage is convenience. Because neither of us has to travel to a different location, any time of the day or evening when our schedules can mesh, we can meet. So, the time and money spent in travel, not to mention the mental and emotional hassle of trying to get somewhere on time, is eliminated. We can both be more flexible in our scheduling.
A third advantage is that I get to see you in your surroundings, instead of you being forced to meet in my surroundings. When I first began doing counselling and psychotherapy, in 1993, I intentionally decorated my office much as I would my living room – or sitting room – in my home. The reason was that I wanted to have an atmosphere where my clients could feel relaxed and comfortable, and more like a guest in my home than a ‘patient’ in a ‘doctor’s office.’ I thought that this would enable them to be more themselves, and not adopt an unnatural attitude toward our interaction.
Now, with E-therapy, I can actually meet with clients in their homes. Sometimes it might be from their office, or their automobile, or even from the park, if that is where they would like to be. In short, it is a way for me to visit with you in your environment, not the other way around.
This latter feature brings us to the fourth advantage. E-therapy can actually increase the feeling of intimacy because I can see you in your surroundings, in you preferred state of dress for our meeting, which can be something totally casual, or your business suit, as you prefer. I find that via E-therapy, given the surroundings, the freedom to move about in your home or wherever you may be, the freedom to be the way you want to be and do what you need to do, it allows me to see more truly who you are. As some wag put it, intimacy can be understood as ‘into me see.’ In other words, the more I can ‘see’ inside, the more intimate we become, and the more powerful is the healing effect of therapy.
Finally, last but not least, for those who desire and need to negotiate on the fee – and I am always willing to negotiate – doing E-therapy allows me more freedom to negotiate and still make a living income. The first saving is on office rental and any other office maintenance costs. Next is on the travel time and cost. Because I am not having to travel anywhere, there is no additional cost to me for adding in another client during my day, if I have the space available.
For all of these reasons, E-therapy is not only a viable option, it is actually preferable to many people. A couple of stories illustrate the point. I will start with a client that I saw in person for quite some time. He is retired now, though he was working when we started. When I moved to Manchester we had to go to E-therapy, choosing Skype as our medium. He was reluctant to make the change but agreed. We have since continued to work together for several years now via Skype. Recently I asked him, since I was going to make the change to only E-therapy, how he had found it. He laughed and said that he actually has found that he prefers it to meeting in person. He is a convert, he told me.
Another client started out meeting with me in person here in Manchester, but very soon, whether at his suggestion or mine I don’t remember, we began meeting via Skype. He immediately preferred E-therapy to in-person meetings, even though we were both in Manchester at the time. We have met in person once or twice since – once when I visited London where he is now located.
E-therapy media include Skype, Facetime, What’s App, or any others with video – I am quite willing to try your medium of choice. And then there is always the old-fashioned way: telephone.
If you want to discuss this possibility further, please do give me a call.
Addiction Counselling Manchester
Via electronic means: Skype, phone, Facetime, email
Addiction Counselling via Electronic Means: Zoom, Skype, FaceTime, phone, or whatever they come up with next!
I have worked in addiction treatment since 1988. I began my treatment experience working with chemical addictions, such as alcoholism, cocaine, marijuana, narcotics, prescription drugs and other drugs of addiction.
I have extensive training and experience in treating these problems, and I served on the board of directors of the Alabama Alcohol and Drug Abuse Association
I have in the past been certified as a Masters Level Addiction Professional
, a Certified Criminal Justice Addictions Professional
, and I was certified by the International Counseling and Reciprocity Consortium
These certifications are not current, as I found that I just had too many certifications to keep up with them all, especially now that I am concentrating my work and training in Attachment.
Sexual Addiction Counselling
Addiction Counselling Manchester, and by phone or Skype
Next I moved into treating sexual addiction in 1992 when I entered private practice. I also treat relationship or romance addiction (sometimes referred to as "love addiction").
I have trained extensively with Dr. Patrick Carnes
, acknowledged by many to be the leading researcher and writer in the field of sex and relationship addiction. I was a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and a supervisor for counselors seeking certification.
I also served on the Advisory Board for Certified Sex Addiction Therapists
, and am a past board member of the National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity
(now known as the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health
Relationship, Couples and Marriage and Family Psychotherapy
Psychotherapy Anywhere via electronic media. Manchester, Counsellor Manchester
We have long known that addiction is a family illness
. Most people who develop problems with addictions come from families where addiction or co-addiction is present. In addition, the addiction has a grave impact on families where it is present.
It quickly became apparent to me that a knowledge of family dynamics and the best skills available for couples and family work were an important part of the recovery process. Many relationships survive the addiction only to fall apart during recovery.
I have trained with Dr. John Gottmann
, the leading researcher in the U.S. in the field of marriage, relationship, and family counselling. I have worked with several systemic family therapy supervisors and participated in a systemic family therapy supervision group with Dr Don Brown in Birmingham Alabama for about 5 years. Thus my couples and family work is informed by Systemic Family Therapy.
In addition to doing therapy with addicts and their relations in recovery, I also provide marriage and family and couples counselling to others who do not have problems with addictions.
Addiction counselling Manchester
Many people who grow up in dysfunctional or addictive families become what we call "co-dependent". That is, they are excessively dependent on others for their own sense of self worth, or they compulsively caretake others, often getting into dysfunctional relationships that either they can't get out of, or if they do, they soon find another dysfunctional relationship to take it's place.
Because much of my work is done with people in later stage recovery when co-dependency issues begin to emerge, this field became a natural outgrowth of the other work that I do.
Eating Disorders & Body Dysmorphic Disorder
Psychotherapy Manchester & Counsellor Manchester
While I have never trained specifically to treat these disorders, which often co-occur, I have often encountered them in my practice. My approach is psychotherapeutic because I believe that these are symptoms of attachment difficulties.
Attachment Centred Therapy
Psychotherapy Manchester, Counsellor Manchester
While you are here, why don't you check out my Attachment Centred Therapy website. It is located at https://www.attachmentcentredtherapy.co.uk/.
These days my work is centred on attachment. The reason for this is that I believe there is convincing evidence that almost all of the above problems stem from disruptions in attachment in childhood, and sometimes later years. For this reason I have undertaken to educate myself regarding attachment. To that end I have read hundreds of articles and books about attachment theory and research. I'm even working on a book of my own about it.
What are attachment relationships? Essentially, they are people with whom we have a close personal relationship of a familial nature. This includes parent & child and spousal (domestic partnership) relationships. So, when you grow up with your parents, then choose a life partner), then have children yourself, these are all attachment relationships. In addition, there can be other, alternative attachment figures, such as grandparents, aunts or uncles, occasionally siblings, and sometimes people who have no familial relationship, but stand in as substitute attachment figures.
When they go well, we are happy. When they don’t go well, then it leads to unhappiness in one way or another.
I have trained with Dr. Patricia Crittenden
, who was trained by Mary Ainsworth
, who was trained by John Bowlby
, the originator of Attachment Theory
. Dr. Crittenden has created the Dynamic Maturational Method of attachment analysis. You may visit her website to learn more about this.
I use the Adult Attachment Interview
as a way to get started in therapy. This assessment provides a dynamic and revealing way to quickly identify what went wrong and why, and also immediately begins to provide the healing necessary to fix it.
If you want to know more about Attachment Centred Therapy
just click on it to go there.
Addiction Counselling Manchester
It's all a question of balance...